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You are overwhelmed, exhausted and know you are not living life as your true self. You are constantly concerned with what other people think of you, want from you and need from you, and don’t prioritize your own needs. You want to put yourself first, say no when you mean it and set boundaries, but it’s scary and you can’t help but feel guilty when you do it.
People-pleasing, aka codependency, can be a serious issue that wreaks havoc on your life if not addressed and worked through. Seeking approval from others is usually a deep-seeded attachment pattern that was developed in order to get your needs met at one point in time, however, it’s only hurting you now – not serving you. Some of the ways that codependency is showing up in your life are:
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Saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”
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Embodying the “caregiver” or “savior” role in many of your relationships
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Finding it difficult to set boundaries with people
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Avoiding conflict or having a hard time saying what you really think
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Being overly concerned with what other people think of you
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Often feeling resentful, unappreciated, and taken for granted
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Life does not have to be lived this way. It is time to claim your identity and live out your truth. You can still be all the things you need to be/want to be without sacrificing yourself, in fact, once you begin accepting and meeting your own needs, you are able to show up in all areas of your life as a more authentic version of yourself.
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Hi, I'm Nahal
I help individuals and couples identify patterns that are keeping them replaying the same loop, and overcome challenges related to codependency and attachment styles, empowering them to live a full and authentic life.
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I believe that the mind and body are connected and issues that we don't address and process in our minds will show up elsewhere, usually in our bodies. As a trained somatic therapist, I utilize a somatic and attachment approach to help you understand the root causes of the patterns that continue to show up in your life and implement real life strategies to work through them.
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We all have learned to self-abandon at some point in our lives, usually as a means to keep the peace growing up, conditioning us to ignore our own needs and wants and instead become attuned to the needs and wants of the people around us. This leaves us disconnected from ourselves, our bodies, and how we truly want to live.
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These patterns are wired into us long after we have use for them as adults. Learning how to connect back with ourselves and attune to our own bodies, needs, and wants, helps us rewire these patterns into new ones that serve us in our current state of life.
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I believe our self-worth sets the tone for the rest of our lives, and therefore is the most important thing we can have, build on and value. Through therapy, you can build on your identity and self-worth and learn how to implement steps towards a more free and peaceful life that feels like YOU. Some of the steps in releasing the chains of codependency can look like:
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Healing the parts of yourself that you were taught to shrink or hide
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Learning and honoring your body's cues for nervous system dysregulation
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Setting boundaries in relationships and sticking to them
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What you say and what you think are in alignment
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Not feeling guilty for putting yourself first
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Feeling energized and empowered by showing up for yourself
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Taking responsibility for how you feel
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I work one-on-one with individuals as well as offer couples therapy. Codependency can be a relational focused issue that affects the couple dynamic. I work with couples on issues such as resentment, communication, boundary setting, ownership and responsibility, trust building and connection.
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Some of the areas I have experience working with are:
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Anxiety
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Ruminating thoughts
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Codependency
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Somatic Symptoms
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Depression
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Life transitions
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Self-Esteem & Self Worth
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Couples
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Relationship Issues
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Attachment Patterns
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Parenting & Coparenting
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Blended Families
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Mind Body Wellness
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We all have unique struggles in our lives. When we open up and confront them is when we are able to work through them and build on our self-worth and capacity for life. I look forward to navigating this journey with you.
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*I am bilingual in English and Farsi.
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Please click on the Contact bar above to schedule a free 15 minute consultation with me.
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*If you or someone you know is considering harm to self or others, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988
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